Spoon Theory....

This is kind of long, but if you truly want to know what my life is like with Lupus then read.

By Christine Miserandino

My best friend and I were in the diner, talking. As usual, it was very late and we were eating French fries with gravy. Like normal girls our age, we spent a lot of time in the diner while in college, and most of the time we spent talking about boys, music or trivial things, that seemed very important at the time. We never got serious about anything in particular and spent most of our time laughing.
As I went to take some of my medicine with a snack as I usually did, she watched me with an awkward kind of stare, instead of continuing the conversation. She then asked me out of the blue what it felt like to have Lupus and be sick. I was shocked not only because she asked the random question, but also because I assumed she knew all there was to know about Lupus. She came to doctors with me, she saw me walk with a cane, and throw up in the bathroom. She had seen me cry in pain, what else was there to know?


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I am migrating my Blog over to this New will take some time, but I plan to have all my Recipes, Devotional studies, Herbs and oil education, a peek into our Homeschooling life... as well as Marriage and Family articles here soon.  And so much more....I can't wait to have everything up and running! :)

Goodbye Mr. Monday.....

I decided while on our RV trip that when I got back home I wouldn't be doing anymore Mondays.  I mean honestly who Likes Mondays?  So, I have decided that Mondays are going to be kind of like "warm up" days.  So, that I can gear up for the other 4 days and following weekend.  

My weekends look like this:  big family breakfasts, movie marathons, game fests and a mad dash around the house picking up messes.  So, on Mondays I used to drag around and beat myself up for not being productive enough.  Not, anymore!  I make sure that the important things are accomplished like feeding my Family and my Soul.  Then I make sure the kids Read, complete some sort of project or chore like Mahala just finished cleaning her bathroom from top to bottom.  And I make sure I'm organized and ready to go for the next 4 days of school and complete any phone calls, emails or assignments I'm working on.  

This change has given our Home a more relaxed atmosphere and I have found that we are so productive the rest of the week.  I enjoy lighting candles, listening to music and slowly move into full force by Tuesday.  Tomorrow I plan to prep my Nature Journal for September, make some phone calls, work on a review that includes Pirates and Grammar, double check my school supplies needed for Mahala this coming week and read books with Kaden along with his sensory time.   Anything else that happens is just gravy....mmmmm gravy, speaking of that I have my recipe for my country sausage gravy coming up in a few days. :) 
The cool thing is, that other things do happen, they happen naturally.  And I love that, so by taking the pressure off of our Mondays we tend to accomplish a whole lot and still feel less stress and more satisfied at the end of the day.  How do you handle Monday Mornings???


Tuesday Self-Talk ~ Gratitude

Gratitude, what does it really mean to be Grateful?  Gratitude is an act, a look, a warmth in our soul that seeps out of us when we have it.  It's like a contagious smile from a stranger.  It feels good and clears away the yucky mental fog of all the past days that might not have made our favorites list.  Sometimes we go through our days on autopilot not even giving our actions a second thought.  So, how do we keep that glow of Thankfulness?  

We make a decision....we wake up every morning and make the decision to be filled with Gratitude.  We vow to not let the little dark things build up into full on Demons.  We vow to be Seekers, I have been a Seeker my whole life.  Even when I was a little girl and lost my 2nd parent in just over a year I looked for Light, I was Thankful and had Unshakable Faith.  That act of being a Seeker has been what has kept me above the line many many times when I could have just slipped deeper into despair.  

I say all this because I do not have a rosy picture perfect life by any means.  But, I'm often reminded that even on the darkest night if you look up into the heavens you can see the twinkle of little stars that really aren't so little at all.  But, to us they look that way and with Faith we can Believe and know that those lights are way Bigger then any problem or person down here on Earth.  

Are you a Seeker?  Do you look for the good around you?  Do you see the value in choosing your Attitude?  I would Love to Hear your Stories of Gratitude!  


Luke....Love Your Enemies

I've been looking through my old journals a lot lately.  I enjoy seeing what I thought was important at the time, big obstacles that challenged me or truly outrageous funny moments.  It gives me a gentle reminder of the past, helps me understand the present more and gives me guidance while looking forward into the future.

I was reading in Luke 6:27-36  It's easy to Love and be Kind to those you already care about.  Your reward will be great to those who, Love their enemies, do good....hoping for nothing in return. 

I have had my share of Enemies, I have had to Forgive and move Forward.  Some of my biggest hurts in life were not over earth shattering issues.  Sometimes the smallest issue can have the biggest impact on our lives.  And that also goes for acts of Kindness and Mercy.  Every day we are Blessed to go out and spread God's Grace, the Grace He showered down on us even when we didn't deserve it.  If you find it hard to Forgive and move Forward bring it to God, let Him lighten your heart so that you can spread God's unconditional love throughout your day......


Tuesday Self-Talk~ Affirmations

This is my very 1st Tuesday in my Tuesday Self-Talk Series here at Four Violet.  Make sure to check it out each week, because we are commanded to Love ourselves and what better way to do that then to Power Up our Self-Talk!!!  No more Negativity!!!  God created us Beautifully in His likeness.  

I have found that Daily Affirmations are a positive way to start your day.  Or when you start battling negative self-talk, try one of these instead. :)  In the Bible it says Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…” What we think, we’ll eventually say and what we say is very powerful.  We can speak words of life and we can speak words of cursing.  The Bible warns us to guard our thoughts and mouths.  Proverbs 18:20-21 says “From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied.  The tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruit.”  Bellow are just a Few Affirmations to get You started, I'll share more each week.  I have mine written on index cards on my bathroom mirror, dash of my van, at my desk and in my planner.....get creative and let your Self Love Flooooow!

*I am strong.
*I am wise.
*I am precious in the eyes of God.
*I can love and be loved.
*I have power to choose my course in life.
*I accept my self for who I am.

*I replace my anger with understanding and compassion.

*I know that God’s unfailing love surrounds me and that I can trust Him.

*I have everything I need.  
*I trust my ever-increasing ability to eliminate the non-essential and appreciate that which matters.


How We Meditate

Meditation has been apart of my life for three years now.  It came in around the time that I was dealing with some pretty intense Family and Health issues.  I remember the first few times I struggled with letting go and relaxing.  It was so unnatural for me to clear my mind, focus on myself and being present.  It was like I had this fear of being still in my own skin, what will happen when all the walls are down and I'm at one with the here and now? 
Well, I'll tell you....I found a calming peace and was able to let go of the tension I carried in my shoulders and base of my head.  I was able to focus on my breathing and clear my mind from anything that wasn't positive in my life.

Gearing Up For Christmas

Here is a few pages I've got started for Christmas.  We always make a ton of treats for Friends, Family and our Neighbors.  So, I have a several sweet treats that make their appearance every single year.  But, we also like to introduce some new treasures each year too.  This year I'm going to do some bread making, both sweet and savory varieties.
The little house over on the right is just my way of being able to have a visual of what will be on our Christmas Chain.  We link together little slips of paper with activities to do as a Family.  Each morning one of the kids tear one off and we find time during the day to do whatever was written on the link.  This tradition has been going on since my oldest was tiny....along with the 12 days of Christmas.  
The last 12 days till Christmas each of the Kiddos get to open up a gift.  The gifts range from underwear/socks and handmade certificates to art supplies and small travel size products.  Each year they get an ornament, a book and a set of new PJs for sure.  All the other gifts are random.   I started this honestly when my oldest was tiny and I was a single Mom, 20 years old with very little money.  I loved finding inexpensive items or necessities like socks that I could wrap up pretty and see my little guy's face light up.  As they have gotten older I have assigned them a siblings number to make a gift for them with their own hands.  I think their favorites are the ornaments, Pjs and handmade certificates.  I usually put in a day out one on one with Parents or You pick dinner....the possibilities are endless!!!

What are some of your Favorite traditions to do with your Family during Christmas?  I'm getting together supplies now for Cinnamon Ornaments and Salt Dough Ornaments...we do these right after Thanksgiving.  And that will be here before you know it.....where does the time go??????


Making the Holidays Meaningful, but Simple

It almost sounds too good to be true to have both a Meaningful and Simple Holiday Season.  But, that's exactly what I'm planning on having.  I only have a quick moment, but I wanted to write this out to share with all of you.  For years now I have stuck with a simple organized plan.  The key is organization, I have done things basically the same way for about 10 years now.  Before I made my system that actually worked for me I was always running around like a chicken with my head cut off.  I thought to's just not fun, I can't enjoy this season of my life and my children's lives if I'm so scattered and last minute.

Here is what I do...usually in late September or early October I set down and map out a plan for the Holidays starting with Halloween.  We came back from our 9 week long RV trip in Early October, so I whipped mine up pretty quickly.  I organize Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years into sections of my binder.... this year I put it in my bullet journal.  Starting with each Holiday I make a section for Decorations, Activities, Crafts/projects and Food.  

Obviously I start with Halloween listing front door and porch decorations, I don't really decorate a lot.  Under activities for Halloween this year we had a fall scavenger hunt that we did around the neighborhood, pumpkin patch and a few movie nights.  Our October flew by since we were on Vacation for the 1st part of it.  For Crafts/Projects we made spiders, monster bread (I will post the recipe tomorrow), carved pumpkins and made gooey eyeball slime.  And for Food, besides the Monster Bread we made some brownies and stuck bone candy inside and frosted some mini cupcakes with witch green cream cheese frosting.  

I look at Halloween as a warm up to the rest of the Holidays to come! :)  It's nice to have it all written out, easy to see and cross off when completed.  I also like having everything in one place.  I even use a zipper pouch to keep all my receipts. 

I hope this gives you an idea of how you can stay on top of your Holiday planning.  I'll share more tomorrow and next week along with some pictures.


I’m so thrilled You have come to my little piece of the World.  I hope You stay for awhile and join me on this Journey through Life.  Take a moment to Pause, Slow Down and Savor the World around You. 
Let’s Grow, Thrive, Encourage and Embrace all of Life’s Moments.