Oct 23, 2018

Simplify the Spaces You Live In

It's funny how while scrolling through social media you see all these perfect pictures of children laughing in nature.  White walls and soft grays, textured fabrics and must have vintage signs that say bakery, farmhouse or have familiar scripture scrolled across them.  I don't know about you but everything about that is pleasing to my eyes, but also screams you need to get shopping.  And where there is shopping there is money spent, new stuff comes in so old stuff needs to find new homes and then there is the design aspect.  Everything must be placed just so to elude simple living and a peacful atmosphere. 
I don't know about you, but all of that does not seem simple and peaceful to me.  I suggest unless you are already remodeling or moving into a new place to take a different approach.  Without looking online write down what simple living means to you.  And list out each room in your house, then pick 3-5 things that you could do to simplify your life in this space.
Example, in my bathroom I decided to put towels in a basket beside my shower so I wouldn't have to scream for someone to grab me one from the hall closet the next time I forgot to grab one.  I also put all my daily beauty products in a tray on my counter and the less used products away in a drawer.  Now I don't have to sift through 5 shades of lipgloss to find my everyday blush pink one.  I also made a few little changes to tackle cord clutter and downsized some of my bottles in the shower.  Honestly I wish I had a before and after of this space.  It was like night and day.  And I didn't need to run out and by paint or matching baskets to achieve a more peacful and simple space.
I'm not knocking the whole white walls and farmhouse decor....I personally love it.  But, I do believe we can't all redo every room in our house to look instworthy.  And we can achieve a more relaxing vibe to our space with just a few changes.  And as funds and time permit you can add your favorite farm sign to the mix, add some shiplap, fuzzy blankets and a new coat of white paint.  Just stay true to your style and what matters most to you.  That way your space represents you and your family.    Find ways to rearrange what you already have.  Let go of things you don't find necessary to have anymore. 
Most importantly relax and have fun!!!

Oct 1, 2018

Daily Affirmations

Daily Affirmations are a positive way to start your day.  Or when you start battling negative self-talk, try one of these instead.   In the Bible it says Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…” What we think, we’ll eventually say and what we say is very powerful. We can speak words of life and we can speak words of cursing. The Bible warns us to guard our thoughts and mouths.  Proverbs 18:20-21 says “From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied. The tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

*I have unique attributes and abilities because I am a Woman.
I am strong.
I am wise.
I am precious in the eyes of God.
I can love and be loved.
I have power to choose my course in life.
I accept my self for who I am.
*I replace my anger with understanding and compassion.
*I know that God’s unfailing love surrounds me and that I can trust Him.
*I have everything I need.  I trust my ever-increasing ability to eliminate the non-essential and appreciate that which matters.
*Whatever I need to know is revealed to me.  Whatever I need to have comes to me.  Wherever the Lord leads me is exactly where I need to be.
*I pray for wisdom and direction in every area of my life.
*I don’t need to figure everything out.  I don’t worry if I don’t understand things in my head, because my trust is in the Lord, and not in my head.  God is the Source of everything I need, and I place my trust in him.
*My thoughts are positive, Words encouraging, Habits constructive, Deeds good.
*I trust that everything comes at the perfect time and in the perfect way.  The Lord works everyday miracles.  He always serves my higher good.
*My heart is my home, and with God’s help, it will be a place of love.
*I am born spiritually and become a new person.  Old things pass away and all tings become new.  I look at the world through new eyes and listen with new ears.  I think new thoughts, take new actions, and have a new life.
*I trust that everything comes at the perfect time and in the perfect way. The Lord works everyday miracles. He always serves my higher good.
*Faith isn’t something I must have before I move in the direction of my dreams.  Instead, it’s something that develops after I start moving.
*My heart is my home, and with God’s help, it will be a place of love.
*I Am Not Alone…..I live in a world created and sustained by love.
*I have opened my heart and mind to the power of God’s love, and I dare to call God my Father.  My heart, mind, and will are all heading in the direction of God’s love, and I am a whole person. I love God with all my mind, all my heart, and all my strength.  There is no ambivalence in my relationship with God.
*My heart is my home, and I should feel comfortable there. It should feel good to be at home with myself.  If I don’t feel good inside, I need to make some changes in the way I think so that I can change the way I feel.

Jan 23, 2018

I Am Capable!

When I was in college I took Spanish for 3 semesters.  I loved my teacher and it was so fun to celebrate each week with food or drinks while making small talk with the words we all learned that week.  Everyone would laugh and have a great time, I could tell only because of the laughter, not because I understood a darn thing coming out of their mouths.  Yes, I took Spanish for 3 semesters, but learned nothing other then how to count to 10 and a few odds and end words.  My teacher took me out off campus to eat and was like Sheila...dear, you just are not going to get it.  Save your money for something else....anything else.  It was totally funny we laughed together, because I knew he was right.  Even though this sweet teacher was not negative at all to me ever, I held on to these words and put them with all the other words that was ever said to me regarding my self worth or capability.  He meant no harm, but I allowed it to fester and become much more then he ever knew.  I might have been laughing on the outside, but on the inside there was so much more going on with me.

Fast-forward to homeschooling my kiddos and foreign language comes back into the picture.  This time it's German.  I have always been fascinated with the German culture and come to find out I have German speaking family living in Germany.  For years I felt like it wasn't possible to learn another language and I tried to not pass those beliefs onto my kiddos, but it was my true feelings at the time.  It wasn't until I really embraced the whole self care self love practice that I felt the urge to try and learn German....for me, not a grade or to be able to say I know another language.  I have a desire to learn and you know what, I am actually learning German.  If I woke up tomorrow in Germany I would be able to tell everyone who I am, that I'm hungry, need coffee, where I want to shop and several other things.  It's only been a few weeks, but I have confidence in myself and I know I am capable.  Did you read that?  I am capable!!!!

Jan 21, 2018

How to Start using Essential Oils

Well, it's very Simple... I will be updating this part of my Blog as often as possible.  I NEVER talked much about oils, even though we have been using them for 4 years now.  I didn't want to get into the "sales" part of it.  But, my Family and I have benefited so much I just feel now is the time.  I can't continue to enjoy the benefits without sharing with all of you so that you too can feel the difference in your lives without always reaching for a pill.

I have used a few different brands and right now I am committed and benefiting wildly from DoTerra's Essential Oils.  Feel free to hop over to my Wellness Advocate page and look at all the Plant Magic they have to offer your sweet Family!!
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Jan 19, 2018

Special Needs Parenting

It's hard to talk real sometimes...everything on social media is so perfect, planned out, organized and airbrushed.  My life just isn't like that, not at all.  I don't want it to be, but I do want to be happy and content.  I do want to live my best life the way that gives me joy.  So, even though my life looks messy on the outside, on the inside there are a ton of moments that bring me much joy and contentment.  But, as a special needs family I will say there are also those other moments when I wish I could live behind some of those well planned out airbrushed squares.  I look at those little pics or read those posts and think....if only my kids would do that, I wish our family could be like this.  Or wait for it.....I wish I was as happy as that Mom is!!! 

Jan 13, 2018

Getting stuff done!!

All the Christmas decorations are completely down, put away and ready for a long 10 month slumber.  Something inside me always feels a tiny bit sad when the last box is stored.  I love the smell of cinnamon and pine, the flickering of burning candles and twinkle lights.  But, I also like the feel of a fresh clean slate that always comes after the Holidays. 
This year we are doing a ton of downsizing and it all begins now.  What is our goal?  For 2018 to be lighter, less cluttered, allowing us more freedom to travel and do the things we truly value.  So, even though I reluctantly packed away my Christmas I hold onto the Spirit of it all in my heart as I start plowing through one room at a time.
First room!  You have no clue how many books I own, it is crazy town!!!  That alone makes me want to curl up and take a nap. :)  Instead of hibernating though I have decided to divide my books into reference, donate, read and pass on to a specific person.  I will update later how this goes.  I was amazed at the reference pile, you would think I lived before the internet....oh wait I did!  :) 

2018 Update!

Trying to separate my two blogs that actually went from 5 blogs to these two have been ridiculously difficult.  I'm still sorting it all out, but I see light, there is finally light at the end of this online tunnel.  That said I will be uploading new content a few times a week here along with Reviews on the other blog.  Still sorting out the social media between the two blogs, but that's fine....I just need to get posting.  What made it so difficult was having a separate blog for Autism, Homeschooling, Life, Health and so forth was just too much to keep up with along with Reviewing 150+ products a year.  And not to mention just living life...with Kaden and homeschooling....and did I mention Kaden?
So there you have it a tiny update...2018 is looking really good over here!

Nov 7, 2017

Working on Time Management

I long to be over here and connecting with you through posts, but my Four Violet Reviews Blog has me so busy.  I can hardly keep up with my personal journals and Bible journaling.... and that is a must for my sanity.  I do promise to get better, to manage my time so that I spend less time thinking about writing and more time actually doing the writing.
I have been painting a lot lately, like 3-5 hours a day.  I enjoy researching scripture and making these little cards to use in my Bible and planners.  I have made tons of say the very least. 
“Show me, Lord, my life’s end
    and the number of my days;
    let me know how fleeting my life is. You have made my days a mere handbreadth;
    the span of my years is as nothing before you.
Everyone is but a breath,
    even those who seem secure Psalm 39:4-5

Oct 16, 2017

Blessing Roll Call

We have had to do a lot of praying and research these last few weeks.  And honestly I am worn down....worn down to the point where my days are just what ever they become.  My expectations are low and my heart is opened wide to receive whatever it is that the Lord has planned for me.  Blessing Roll Call.....This month the Lord has saved my family from contracting something horrid from our filthy bathrooms that haven't been touched with so much as a Clorox wipe in like forever.  He's given me cooler weather and has kept the smoke from local fires to a minimum so I can still go outside and take a few minutes to myself while stuffing my mouth with a GF, vegan muffin.  The sweet Lord has opened my world up a little more and given me some new Friends and support through social media that I wouldn't have had if I waited till Kaden decided that going out of the home was safe and acceptable.  Literally as I lay awake in bed and my Hubby saws logs like a lumberjack I can feel Jesus beside me lulling me to sleep while magically erasing all of my mind clutter.  Thank You Lord....for giving me peace, hope and love.  
Another Day... Another Challenge... Another Prayer... Another Answer... Another Blessing

Sep 28, 2017

Raising Green Thumbs

I never was one to garden, I couldn't even keep cactus alive.  I loved the idea of planting and having a garden, but it wasn't really in me.  Or so I be honest the problem was that I didn't take the time to slow down and actually have a garden.  You can't just throw seeds in the ground and boom be done.  It takes care, tending, hoping, loving and protecting. 

I think having a garden changes a person, allows them to slow the whirling thoughts and focusing on the here and now.  Over the past few years I have tried to live more intentionally and not just devouring all the hours and minutes with mindless activities.  

This is what I want to pass down to my kids, especially Kaden who struggles with fits of rage every single day.  And I see the automatic change in him when he is out in the garden. I Love It!!  I Love watching him pluck off dead leaves, watering and even encouraging the little fellas lagging behind in growth.  

The number 1 thing I think all children should have in their lives is a garden.  Every single day Kaden is out there in the gardening tending to it, he simply must.  He knows that the health of the plants depend on him and in return he gets to have beautiful flowers and yummy fruits and veggies. Oh, and the occasional insect friend. :)